Over reacting to Will.I.Am

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Is Will.I.Am gay?

What? That is not the question on everybody's mind since his comment the other day when he sat down to be interviewed by Andrew Goldman from Elle Magazine?

It is difficult indeed to refrain from taking his not-very-carefully-crafted words completely out of context. You don't have to read the entire interview because we have it summarized here.

1. He doesn't know his Pops and doesn't really need him.
2. His momma whooped his butt
3. He didn't fantasize about women till he was 19
4. Girls owning condoms?! Tacky!
5. USE WIPES

Of course the only thing everyone is harping on is his comment on condoms. But everyone is over reacting quite a little bit, yeah?

Here, watch this trailer:

This documentary, Let's Talk About Sex, is a candid look at the puritanical attitudes held by our society concerning sex. I caught most of it when it aired on the 9th of April, 2011 and was slightly shocked by some of the comments from teenagers. With so many STDs and the threat of AIDS, there aren't enough of these children thinking about protection. In comparison with teenagers from the Netherlands, American teenagers seem like toddlers when it comes to sex education.

It is so much easier to hold up our hands to cover our eyes and say women and men (but especially women) should not be having sex outside marriage. They are and the fact is that your precious teenage daughter has probably already had sex and probably has a more active sex life than you do. Wouldn't it be prudent then that she carry condoms with her or have them readily available so that when the urge arises she is not caught unaware? As any woman will tell you, men "forget" condoms very often and then PRESS the woman to have sex with no protection.

The truth of the matter is that Will.I.Am is only a product of his society. The assumption that he should have a different perspective on sexual health is wrong. These celebrities and media personalities are just like the rest of us, prone to the same misconceptions about sex, love and money. There is no reason at all to think that if the majority of men think women having condoms in the home is tacky or makes the woman seem too easy then why would he (Mr. I.Am) not be prone to it?

I'm not one of those people who think the Master Pea is gay. I honestly think he is just one of those guys who is okay not having rabid sex with unknown women, and after seeing his comment about wipes (don't be offended people - CLEAN YOURSELVES!) I guess he may be just a little OCD. And you know what? As long as he and his mysterious boo agree on this issue, it ain't none of our business!

It is important to note that at Qalil, we believe it is the responsibility of every woman to make sure that she is informed and protected whenever she has a sexual encounter and that having wipes in your bathroom might be a good idea if you intend to have Will.I.Am over.

Do you think your attitude towards sex is healthy? How did you approach sex education with your teenagers? How do you think it should be approached?